You matter – Self-love, Care and Revival

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As a business owner, self is often last on the list. There are too many things to do and too many other people to think about so your personal mental and emotional health is on the “last to do” list.

Diane Von Fursenberg  said, “You’re always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.”

So how do you start enjoying your own company. It starts with:

Self-care and self-love 

Self-care has become vital in today’s world because life is so hectic. Not to be confused with selfishness. Learning to love and care for yourself can be a daunting task. It forces you to look deep within and analyse your insecurities and fears in excruciating detail. Scary as this may be, it is the only way to overcome what is currently holding you back.

Insecurities do not miraculously disappear – you need to tackle them head-on and then use this formula to banish them:

  1. Challenge yourself to discover what your insecurities are and why they are there.
  2. Focus on what you really want for yourself.
  3. Create ways to overcome the insecurities (1) and live your dreams (2).

Sometimes you need to take a break from everyone and spend time alone, to experience, appreciate, and love yourself.”  Robert Tew

What Self Love is NOT?

Loving yourself does not make you a selfish person. Because it is a reflective process, self-love turns your energy inward, but the benefits radiate outwards to others. You cannot pour from an empty cup – if you do not invest in yourself, you will have nothing to give to others.

Self-love is not egotistical, narcissistic, or entitled. While learning to love yourself involves recognising your worth, needs, and goals, you also need to acknowledge your weaknesses, challenges, and obstacles.

Do not use self-love as an excuse. Yes, a massage or a mental health day may be needed, but do not exploit these perks. Loving yourself encompasses the good, the bad, and the ugly! Self-love means taking responsibility and accountability while bravely embarking on difficult journeys of growth.

Actions to Loving Yourself 

  1. Forget past mistakes. Your point of power is in the present, so forget what happened last year and move on.
  2. Watch how you speak to yourself. Ban negative self-talk.
  3. Stop apologising. You are who you are and you like what you like. Do not dilute and undermine yourself with sorries.
  4. Surround yourself with positive people. Hang out with those who celebrate who you are.
  5. Celebrate small victories. Share them with someone who can celebrate with you. Be proud of your progress.
  6. Make joy a priority. Spend a little time each day doing what you love.
  7. Give yourself some grace. If you miss the mark, do not beat yourself up about it. Keep going.

Revival of self 

Most people will tell you they are perpetually tired. Life takes its toll on your sleep, relationships, health and general wellbeing. Finding ways to revive yourself daily is key to being happier, healthier and more fulfilled.

  1. Take some time off – from work and family.
  2. Disconnect and unplug – stop scrolling through social media and watching series after series. Sit out in nature. Take in the sun. Breath.
  3. Ask for help – in ALL the areas you need it.
  4. Make a 20’s list – a list of 20 things you really enjoy doing. They do not have to cost you money, just reminders to you of what you can do. Bubble baths, read, watch a series, go for walks, coffee with a friend, art, music….
  5. Get organised – it might sound like work but purging the old and getting everything in its place helps you feel in control.
  6. Set good boundaries – do not have your work emails on your phone, do not look at work related things during your days off, stop working on the weekends and say no to seeing people or doing things you really do not want to do.
  7. Get moving. Try to take a walk or do something physical each day. Our lives have become too sedentary, and we have stopped moving. So put on some music and get moving.

 

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